A Love Letter to My Younger Self

A Love Letter to My Younger Self: 

This is something I think about often, what would the older, wiser version of me tell my younger self? The idea of sitting down with the girl I once was, with all her fears, dreams, and insecurities, feels like a necessary conversation. And as I write this, I can’t help but think about my daughter. What advice will I give her as she grows into a young woman? The thought of guiding her through the complexities of womanhood fills me with both hope and responsibility. And honestly, I would do everything differently not just with her, but with my son as well, but before I digress, let me return to what I want to say to my younger self.

The first thing that comes to mind is something my mother used to tell me: "Once you've dragged your name through the mud, you will never get it back." When I was younger, I didn’t fully understand this. It seemed like an exaggeration, a warning meant to scare me into behaving. But now, with the benefit of hindsight, I realise how right she was. Your reputation, once tarnished, is incredibly hard to restore. A single mistake can follow you, shaping the way others see you for years to come.

So, dear younger self, think before you act impulsively. I know you’re young and you think you know better, but really, you don’t. At least, not yet. Take a moment to consider the consequences of your actions. Think about how your choices today might echo into tomorrow. It’s not about living in fear, but about understanding the weight of your decisions. Your future self will thank you.

Enjoy the Journey, Not Just the Destination

One of my biggest regrets is not fully appreciating my school years. I wish I could tell my younger self to enjoy them more, to not be in such a hurry to grow up. Don’t give up on sports just because you’re not on the A team anymore. You don’t have to be the best to enjoy something. Do it because it fuels your body and mind, because it’s fun, and because it’s a chance to connect with yourself and your teammates in a way that academics or socialising can’t.

Work hard in school not necessarily to be the top student, but to prove to yourself what you’re capable of. Show yourself that you’re not lazy and can achieve more than you think. There’s a certain pride that comes from knowing you gave your best, regardless of the outcome. And while you’re at it, take part in all the fun events. No one cares how silly you look, and in a few years, neither will you. These moments, fleeting as they are, will become some of your most cherished memories.

Choose Your Friends Wisely

Don’t get involved with the wrong friends. This is one of those lessons that’s easier said than done, but it’s crucial. The people you surround yourself with have a huge influence on your life. They can lift you up or pull you down. Stay true to who you are and don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. It’s okay to walk away from friendships that don’t serve you or align with your values.

Explore the World and Expand Your Horizons

If you finish school and find yourself unsure of what to do next, or if finances make college seem out of reach, don’t be afraid to go overseas. There’s a whole world out there beyond your immediate surroundings, and it’s waiting for you to explore it. Don’t let a boyfriend or even your closest friends hold you back. They’ll be there when you return, but you’ll come back with a broader perspective and a clearer idea of what you want in life.

Love Slowly and Deeply

Do not fall in love too quickly. I know, it’s hard when you’re young and emotions run high. But take your time. If you like someone and they like you, be friends first. Get to know them as a person before diving into a serious relationship. Friendship lays a foundation that love often overlooks. And the truth is, love can blind you to the red flags and truths you need to see. Before you find "the one," go find yourself. Get to know the woman you are becoming. She’s pretty awesome, and she deserves your attention.

Believe in Yourself

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, believe in yourself. You can do anything you set your mind to. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are intelligent, you are brave, you are strong, and you are amazing. The world will try to tell you that you’re not enough, that you should be something or someone else. But the truth is, you are enough just as you are. Embrace that truth, and let it guide you through the challenges and triumphs that life will inevitably bring.

So, dear younger self, as you navigate the twists and turns of womanhood, remember these words. They come from a place of experience, of trials and errors, and of growth. You’ll make mistakes, and that’s okay. You’ll stumble and fall, but you’ll also rise and soar. Just keep believing in yourself, and trust that you’re on the right path, even when it doesn’t feel like it. You’ve got this.

From The Papery team:

-Growing up we had a lot of financial instability. I adored my dad, he never gave up trying BUT if I could go back and tell myself one thing, it would be “his story is not your story”. It’s taken me years of self work and healing to get to the point where I no longer carry this identity as my own. - Alison

- I would tell my younger self this: “Embrace and enjoy the season you find yourself in right now, you may not think it is perfect, but it is a season filled with beauty and opportunity. One day you will look back on it and find many things to be grateful for” 🌸🩷 - Zelda

- Vimbie you are so special believe in yourself girl - Vimmy

-Dear Molly.. just remember there is light at the end of the tunnel; so never give up no matter what, because this too shall pass!!💓 - Molly

-To my younger self: It's going to be a rough ride. Most things in life will not go according to plan and times will be tougher than you can possibly imagine.But you will surprise yourself at how deep you can dig to find the strength you need to persevere. Remember your blessings! They will give you a reason to wake up and face each day. - Anonymous

- Stop to sacrifice the present for the sake of the future. You think it is a matter of course that the present just has to be put up with until one day in the future. You have overlooked the importance of enjoying the journey while prizing only the destination. It is okay to live the life that you wish for. You can live the life you yourself think has meaning, free from the expectations of society. Break free from all the self-imposed limits and discover the courage to change your life. Follow your heart. - Annake